Human beings are really 1 kind. We really tynk that we understand each other so well, as family, as friends, that we will always judge one another. Of course i'm not excused from this behavior as well because i like the rest have fallen. We always tynk we are right, others are wrong. And the best thing is we always believe that we can read each other intentions and character and personality so well!
It's really so easy to tell someone that 'You're selfish!'. Or 'You're petty', without actually realising that each time we utter such words, we're piercing a knife through their hearts. But we still always do that, sadly. Especially when we really want things our way and if that scenario doesn't happen, we tend to blurt out all these words.
It's so funny. I tell u it's really so hard to maintain a family. When you have 5 people living under 1 roof that has different kind of lives, it just gets so exciting. You never know when the next conflict would come because it is always lurking around in the corner. You see, in a family where everyone refuses to give way, what you have isn't really a family anymore is it?
Of course i stand by the opinion that everyone has a different way of life and of course each way of life and character has been forged and moulded by the different circumstances and the different surroundings and experiences. So what is the unifying thing in the family then? The surname? A house to come home to, which has become a hotel for some?
Ok, let's examine a few typical characters in the family. The father. The one who more often than not is the breadwinner in the family. Constantly worries about finances to send his children to school and of course would want the best for his wife and for his children. Comes home daily hoping to enjoy a good meal with the family after a hard day's work.
The mother. A person who always wishes to have the best for the family, sometimes even making sacrifices like not going out in order to cook and spend time with the family. Is also a strict disciplinarian. Juggles 3 things; work, studies and housework. Worries alot about the children in the family especially when they come home late.
The eldest son. Someone who holds the role as peacemaker in the family although sometimes can be the troublemaker. He has to be the mediator at times and has the responsibility of looking after his sisters and making sure that they are doing well, as well as to make sure that his parents are fine too.
The 1st sister. An extremely outgoing person who never fails to come home late every night. Is talented in almost all sports and is a great social butterfly. At times when she comes home a bit earlier than usual, she will offer to do some housework.
The 2nd sister. A girl who has strong individualistic values and believes firmly in her character. Independence brought about by the long hours spent at home when her elder siblings are in secondary school while she in primary school. Reads widely and is yet to fulfil her maximum potential.
Wow! Picture of a perfect family! Unbelievable! But no. It's far from perfect. Misunderstandings, irritation, transgressions, hurts, vulgarities, shoutings, screamings are all so common. It can happen anyday, anytime, anywhere. Whether 1am, or 2pm anytime, anywhere. Overseas, at home, in shopping centres, just absurd right?
A typical family that do not know how to translate their care and concerns for each other into positive words and actions. Everything is negative. Everything is bad.
Parents do not understand their children and vice versa. For children who can take all this misunderstanding and judging of their characters, they will grow up to be very strong individuals. For those who cannot take it, very often they would turn to their peers. For the worst case, they would even turn to crime, gangs etcetc and the gap between the parents and the children will just be there for a long long time.
In the world that has fallen, everyone has fallen too. Our actions, thoughts and words all make tt up. But God knows. He knows right from wrong. He knows love from hatred. The only thing that can unite people's hearts is through Christ. The epitome of love.
It's really so easy to tell someone that 'You're selfish!'. Or 'You're petty', without actually realising that each time we utter such words, we're piercing a knife through their hearts. But we still always do that, sadly. Especially when we really want things our way and if that scenario doesn't happen, we tend to blurt out all these words.
It's so funny. I tell u it's really so hard to maintain a family. When you have 5 people living under 1 roof that has different kind of lives, it just gets so exciting. You never know when the next conflict would come because it is always lurking around in the corner. You see, in a family where everyone refuses to give way, what you have isn't really a family anymore is it?
Of course i stand by the opinion that everyone has a different way of life and of course each way of life and character has been forged and moulded by the different circumstances and the different surroundings and experiences. So what is the unifying thing in the family then? The surname? A house to come home to, which has become a hotel for some?
Ok, let's examine a few typical characters in the family. The father. The one who more often than not is the breadwinner in the family. Constantly worries about finances to send his children to school and of course would want the best for his wife and for his children. Comes home daily hoping to enjoy a good meal with the family after a hard day's work.
The mother. A person who always wishes to have the best for the family, sometimes even making sacrifices like not going out in order to cook and spend time with the family. Is also a strict disciplinarian. Juggles 3 things; work, studies and housework. Worries alot about the children in the family especially when they come home late.
The eldest son. Someone who holds the role as peacemaker in the family although sometimes can be the troublemaker. He has to be the mediator at times and has the responsibility of looking after his sisters and making sure that they are doing well, as well as to make sure that his parents are fine too.
The 1st sister. An extremely outgoing person who never fails to come home late every night. Is talented in almost all sports and is a great social butterfly. At times when she comes home a bit earlier than usual, she will offer to do some housework.
The 2nd sister. A girl who has strong individualistic values and believes firmly in her character. Independence brought about by the long hours spent at home when her elder siblings are in secondary school while she in primary school. Reads widely and is yet to fulfil her maximum potential.
Wow! Picture of a perfect family! Unbelievable! But no. It's far from perfect. Misunderstandings, irritation, transgressions, hurts, vulgarities, shoutings, screamings are all so common. It can happen anyday, anytime, anywhere. Whether 1am, or 2pm anytime, anywhere. Overseas, at home, in shopping centres, just absurd right?
A typical family that do not know how to translate their care and concerns for each other into positive words and actions. Everything is negative. Everything is bad.
Parents do not understand their children and vice versa. For children who can take all this misunderstanding and judging of their characters, they will grow up to be very strong individuals. For those who cannot take it, very often they would turn to their peers. For the worst case, they would even turn to crime, gangs etcetc and the gap between the parents and the children will just be there for a long long time.
In the world that has fallen, everyone has fallen too. Our actions, thoughts and words all make tt up. But God knows. He knows right from wrong. He knows love from hatred. The only thing that can unite people's hearts is through Christ. The epitome of love.
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