Recently there has really been quite a no. of stuff bothering mi and most of them are rather unpleasant. Mi sister's fren had a little problem and came to look for mi sister for help. However this 'little' problem ain't tt little at all. In fact, it's still bothering mi up till now. Now, this fren of hers needed to borrow a little bit of money. Now this little bit of money aint so little too. It's juz a sum of $3000. She needed the money to bail someone out of prison apparently. The reason she gave was to mi, abit nonsensical and unbelievable.
However, this 1 person tt she needed to bail out was her father and of course if i were to imagine mi father in prison, i'd also be desperate. So she's crying and telling mi this really incredible story about how her father landed up in jail. To mi, 3k is a rather significant sum and to juz land it to someone hu told mi an incredible story is really absolutely no go. Besides, since i feel tt she's telling mi a lie about the reason y her father is in jail, i can't help but wonder wad the real reason is.
Anyone hus close ones are in prison would surely be desperate to get them out and to mi, desperate pple will do anything..including lying. I mean, wad would happen if her father is bankrupt, or corrupt, or mayb even a drug abuser? Sometimes i might be too critical and cynical of people but i juz can't help it. The world is rather selfish and i believe most people will do things for their own benefit.
Mi sister though is a more trusting and worthy fren than i am and she'd do anything for her frens. In her eyes, i'm juz a selfish bastard hu has the money and the means to help her fren but dun wanna help. Well, hopefully one day she'll understand mi decision. So she started using her vast contacts and network of frens to try to raise the amount of money for her fren. Of course i tried to dissuade her because i always imagine the worse case scenario. If her fren's father jumped bail, the amount of money they raised would be forfeited and worse of all, all of mi sister's frens parents hu contributed money to the fund will start pointing their fingers at mi. At such a young age, to hold such a responsibility as a guarantor is really not easy man. So many details to iron out.
Anywae, i went to check up the prison service website and read up a bit on bailing procedures and learnt quite alot actually. Like how an accused person can be caught without a warrant and help up to 2 days and if they're not released unconditionally, they'd be charged. Since mi sister's fren's father has been in there for like 7 days liao, i deduce tt he must have been charged and therefore require bail. Next, to pay for the bail, cash is not necessarily needed. Ok here's the info i copied from the website.
When Police bail is offered, the person arrested can contact a bailor. The bailor must be either a Singapore citizen or permanent resident, and more than 21 years old.
The bailor will have to satisfy the Police that he is suitable to provide bail. A bailor may show his ability to stand bail by depositing cash, or producing fixed deposit certificates, bank passbooks, car log books, title deeds to a property, share certificates or other valuables. A bailor should also bring along his NRIC as proof of identity.
If the amount of bail exceeds $10,000, a company or a business may stand as bailor. The company's stamp will be needed. The authorised signatory of the company will have to sign the documents.
Ok now comes the part tt i'm irritated wif. I'm bothered by the kind of emotional torture this issue has brought mi. In mi mind, i can't stop playing the vivid images of having mi own family members in prison, lonely. And of course i still feel a pang of guilt for not helping to like bail her father out. The sight of her crying in desperation is still etched in mi mind and it's torturing mi whenever i'm not doing anything tt can keep mi mind off. This is the consequence of being mature. Not bragging here. The grave consequences.
And of course life is always full of regrets. Some big, some small depending on the context and of course depending on the types of choices we make. We cannot see the future, yet we're always required to make sensible choices. I've a few regrets in mi life and the one tt i'm gonna talk about is the biggest if not most serious regret i have in mi life. Y issit the most serious? Because it has nothing to do wif mi. All i made was mayb 1 wrong choice, and that person might not have a more fulfilled life than designated.
I've always believed in mi choices and decisions. But to cause someone's life to screw up is really really bad. Right now, i can't really see tt person's future and i juz really really hope tt she'll be able to do well and strive to achieve the best in her life. Y do i feel tt bad? You see, if i made a wrong choice for miself, of course i'd still regret but i can tell miself tt i chose tt path miself and i can blame no one. But to make a wrong choice for another person, she'd regret she did not stand up more for her decision, and will be left to wonder wad her future will be like.
Standing in mi shoes, i can understand how parents feel. From young, they've been our mentor, guardian, parent, teacher, role model etcetc. And they'd need to constantly make decisions. Should they send us for piano courses? For art courses? For sports courses? Each one of which would have a deep impact on us. How much time to spend wif us revising? Work or spending time wif child? Parents have to continuously juggle both the role of a worker in the office, the parents to their children and the spouse to each other. Each one demands time from them. And a lack of time spent wif children will sometimes lead to delinquency in kids.
Ok i tynk i'm talking nonsense liao but i juz feel that our parents would constantly feel haunted by the choices they made for us. Because these choices very much often help to determine our destiny.
OKOK i give up..i'm really not making sense anymore. I juz hope i'll be able to forgive miself of the wrong choice i made. So people, tynk twice whenever u make choices and decisions for pple. It could change their entire destiny. Oh ya and remember to treasure ur parents to. Filial Piety is the most important trait one shld have. Otherwise no matter how successful you are or will be, to mi u're juz garbage. So go and love your parents and spend more time wif them. Dun wait till it's too late.
However, this 1 person tt she needed to bail out was her father and of course if i were to imagine mi father in prison, i'd also be desperate. So she's crying and telling mi this really incredible story about how her father landed up in jail. To mi, 3k is a rather significant sum and to juz land it to someone hu told mi an incredible story is really absolutely no go. Besides, since i feel tt she's telling mi a lie about the reason y her father is in jail, i can't help but wonder wad the real reason is.
Anyone hus close ones are in prison would surely be desperate to get them out and to mi, desperate pple will do anything..including lying. I mean, wad would happen if her father is bankrupt, or corrupt, or mayb even a drug abuser? Sometimes i might be too critical and cynical of people but i juz can't help it. The world is rather selfish and i believe most people will do things for their own benefit.
Mi sister though is a more trusting and worthy fren than i am and she'd do anything for her frens. In her eyes, i'm juz a selfish bastard hu has the money and the means to help her fren but dun wanna help. Well, hopefully one day she'll understand mi decision. So she started using her vast contacts and network of frens to try to raise the amount of money for her fren. Of course i tried to dissuade her because i always imagine the worse case scenario. If her fren's father jumped bail, the amount of money they raised would be forfeited and worse of all, all of mi sister's frens parents hu contributed money to the fund will start pointing their fingers at mi. At such a young age, to hold such a responsibility as a guarantor is really not easy man. So many details to iron out.
Anywae, i went to check up the prison service website and read up a bit on bailing procedures and learnt quite alot actually. Like how an accused person can be caught without a warrant and help up to 2 days and if they're not released unconditionally, they'd be charged. Since mi sister's fren's father has been in there for like 7 days liao, i deduce tt he must have been charged and therefore require bail. Next, to pay for the bail, cash is not necessarily needed. Ok here's the info i copied from the website.
When Police bail is offered, the person arrested can contact a bailor. The bailor must be either a Singapore citizen or permanent resident, and more than 21 years old.
The bailor will have to satisfy the Police that he is suitable to provide bail. A bailor may show his ability to stand bail by depositing cash, or producing fixed deposit certificates, bank passbooks, car log books, title deeds to a property, share certificates or other valuables. A bailor should also bring along his NRIC as proof of identity.
If the amount of bail exceeds $10,000, a company or a business may stand as bailor. The company's stamp will be needed. The authorised signatory of the company will have to sign the documents.
Ok now comes the part tt i'm irritated wif. I'm bothered by the kind of emotional torture this issue has brought mi. In mi mind, i can't stop playing the vivid images of having mi own family members in prison, lonely. And of course i still feel a pang of guilt for not helping to like bail her father out. The sight of her crying in desperation is still etched in mi mind and it's torturing mi whenever i'm not doing anything tt can keep mi mind off. This is the consequence of being mature. Not bragging here. The grave consequences.
And of course life is always full of regrets. Some big, some small depending on the context and of course depending on the types of choices we make. We cannot see the future, yet we're always required to make sensible choices. I've a few regrets in mi life and the one tt i'm gonna talk about is the biggest if not most serious regret i have in mi life. Y issit the most serious? Because it has nothing to do wif mi. All i made was mayb 1 wrong choice, and that person might not have a more fulfilled life than designated.
I've always believed in mi choices and decisions. But to cause someone's life to screw up is really really bad. Right now, i can't really see tt person's future and i juz really really hope tt she'll be able to do well and strive to achieve the best in her life. Y do i feel tt bad? You see, if i made a wrong choice for miself, of course i'd still regret but i can tell miself tt i chose tt path miself and i can blame no one. But to make a wrong choice for another person, she'd regret she did not stand up more for her decision, and will be left to wonder wad her future will be like.
Standing in mi shoes, i can understand how parents feel. From young, they've been our mentor, guardian, parent, teacher, role model etcetc. And they'd need to constantly make decisions. Should they send us for piano courses? For art courses? For sports courses? Each one of which would have a deep impact on us. How much time to spend wif us revising? Work or spending time wif child? Parents have to continuously juggle both the role of a worker in the office, the parents to their children and the spouse to each other. Each one demands time from them. And a lack of time spent wif children will sometimes lead to delinquency in kids.
Ok i tynk i'm talking nonsense liao but i juz feel that our parents would constantly feel haunted by the choices they made for us. Because these choices very much often help to determine our destiny.
OKOK i give up..i'm really not making sense anymore. I juz hope i'll be able to forgive miself of the wrong choice i made. So people, tynk twice whenever u make choices and decisions for pple. It could change their entire destiny. Oh ya and remember to treasure ur parents to. Filial Piety is the most important trait one shld have. Otherwise no matter how successful you are or will be, to mi u're juz garbage. So go and love your parents and spend more time wif them. Dun wait till it's too late.
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